Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Sensitive Topic: Labiaplasty

Warning: This post is not for the faint hearted.

I have always liked writing about controversial issues that brings about enlightenment and diversity in opinions. That way, I become a more open minded and well educated person. There is nothing wrong in having your own views and opinions, in fact it is your right and you are more than welcome to share your thoughts. The conflict always rise when people begin pushing their own views to others and unconsciously wanting others to believe it too.

As my old readers might probably know, I am under the EdenLovesBloggers program at EdenFantasys, an online sex/adult shop that also carries a lot of stuff like lingerie, bath and beauty items. The program is a sponsored blog post from EdenFantasys and each post, the blogger is rewarded with a gift certificate. I usually check the site and the community for interesting blog topics. I found a topic in the community forum that led me to watch an hour long documentary that left me appreciative but confused and wondering.

The forum topic was entitled "Ugly Pussy."  Some might find it gross and uncomfortable to read that particular text but as a woman this is nothing to be ashamed of. Hello, it is part of our body. Some might find it taboo to actually talk about it but talking about it is a very interesting learning experience. The woman who started the discussion stated that she didn't find her womanly bits pretty. She also opened up the subject of labiaplasty or vulva surgery as an aesthetic procedure that is growing in popularity. Another member of the community replied to her discussion with a link to a documentary, The Perfect Vagina, (which I highly suggest you watch).

After watching the documentary, I have come to appreciate myself and my body more than ever. I have always been quite an advocate of loving oneself and reminding people that they are beautiful and to not compare themselves to others. If changing your size whatever body to a size 0 just because you want yourself to become like the girls in the magazines, labiaplasty, for me,  is even worse since you're changing a part of your body that no one really sees except you and your partner. I only agree to labiaplasty if this would help cure any health problems that the client might be experiencing. It is quite confusing for me since there has been an increase in the number of women who wants to get this procedure and I don't really understand their reason for it.

So let me ask you this question: How do you feel about labiaplasty? Is it okay? Is it wrong? Is this topic really not worth talking about?

I will respect whatever opinion you have on this. :)



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32 comments:

  1. Interesting topic. I honestly don't think it's any different than let's say, breast implants. In the end I think that if a person has tried the whole self acceptance and still questions themselves, and if they feel this will help them psychologically in the long run, then do what makes themselves happy. So long as it's only for themselves. Like I have thought of a nose job. I've tried this whole self acceptance and still, to this day (decade or so later)..I still think about it.

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    1. Thank you for replying on this topic. I was afraid nobody would be interested to discuss this. Well I guess you have a point there. Oh, and for the record, I like your nose. :)

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  2. My friend actually had the surgery in high school and it definitely boosted her self confidence!

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    1. Well, I guess that's good then if it boosted her confidence. :)

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  3. very interesting post.. i think if it makes someone feel better, than by all means do it !~!!

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  4. It's not something that I would do mainly because I'm deathly afraid of surgeries involving the downstairs area... but if it could help someone's self esteem and they have the means to get it done than that's up to them. In the end it's unnecessary in most cases just like most cosmetic surgeries. Its kind of sad in a way because its really not something a whole lot of people are going to see in the end and if someone is making comments about it like they did to the girl in the documentary shame on them because that's just plain mean! I can see why she would want to have it done but it's also disheartening that she was picked on to the point that surgery was her choice.

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    1. Yes the guys who said something about the girl in the documentary were so mean. Even her sister. :(

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  5. I read about this topic in a magazine a few weeks ago, i had no idea people were having this kind of surgery. She got the surgery because she felt unhappy with her down stairs her husband didn't mind if she had it done or not. I guess it's okay if it makes the person happyer. Guess this type of surgery is becoming more accepted, like boob jobs are.

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    1. Well, before I watched the documentary, I already knew about this kind of surgery but I didn't know it was becoming more available to women and becoming in demand. I thought women who undergo labiaplasty or vaginoplasty are women who had multiple deliveries and would want to make the appearance of their womanly parts more nice looking for their husbands but this, apparently has other reasons.

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  6. I always thought that if something makes people happy then they should do it, but the real question here is does it really make them happy? are those people happy after the surgery? do they magically start loving their selves?

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  7. Hey Joanne, thanks for becoming a new follower on my blog! I am loving your blog!
    I think that if this surgery makes the person happy and feel comfortable in their own skin then by all means they should do it. I saw a labiaplasty done on a woman in a medical TV show and she was so happy with the results and gain instant confidence after the surgery.

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  8. I'm inclined to agree with your last paragraph. I'm all for it's you're body do what you want but really a part that no one but yourself and your partner will mostly see... I highly doubt when the clothes come off, your partner's mind will be on how your labia looks.

    For health reasons, sure. For cosmetics, it's your body and do what you wish because it's not my place to judge but really if you're worried about how your lady bits look I wonder what else kind of things these women who get it worry about.

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  9. this is a really interesting topic! i don't really know how i feel about labiaplasty, but i guess my stand on that is the same as plastic surgery -- i sincerely hope women won't feel the need to alter their appearance, but it still comes down to what each individual wants for herself/himself. personally, i don't think i would ever get a surgery (unless of course it's for health reasons, as you said), but i still try to be respectful of people's decision to undergo whatever surgery they want.

    p.s. kudos to you for raising such a sensitive topic!

    <3, Mimi
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    1. True. I hope women don't feel the need to change anything about their appearance. :(

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  10. oh my what a surprising blog topic and quite interesting i must say! i started watching that documentary but i think its like a full movie, hour long thing so i just wanted to say that i think unless you have practical reasons for it, like it causes pain when walking or something, labiaplasty is absolutely pointless! but to each his own, whatever people want to spend their money on, is well, up to them :)
    and thanks for your sweet comment too :)

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  11. Thank you ladies for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I have seriously thought that no one would dare to comment on this. I am just saddened by the fact that more women are considering surgery on different parts of their body, however I have to agree with most of you that if it does make them happy, boosts their confidence and it is their decision to go through it then we really can't judge them.

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  12. Great post! I could understand why some women would want it and understand that it could be quite embarassing even if it a married women. I once wanted breast implants cause I believe I got the short end of the stick in my family lol. They all have huge boobies and mine are just eh. lol But I think more people need to start embracing what they were given. I'm sure for those women who think they have an ugly woohaa should just forget about that. Everyone's looks the same haha. And if a man can't appreciate your cooter then forget him. :P

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    1. Yep. I agree with what you're saying. A man should be able to appreciate everything about you.

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  13. Everyone's looks different is what i meant bahahaha :P

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  14. That blogger program is awesome!

    I think that it's a woman's own choice to do it or not to do it.

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  15. Hi!
    I just found your blog and started scrolling down until I found this interesting post!

    I think the topic is very worth being discussed. I honestly didn't even know that there was such a surgery, and think it is a bit awkward. I mean, I agree to it in the way I agree with reconstructive plastic surgery, meaning that sure, women should have it done if for some reason their body didn't develop the right way or if they had any accident or disease that changed the way they looked down there. But to make it 'prettier'?! Like you said, it is something to be seen only by the woman and her partner, and he should be able to appreciate it as it is, if not, I'm afraid it's his problem xD

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  16. Hi

    I am working on an animated documentary about labiaplasty www.thecentrefoldproject.org. Funded by the Wellcome Trust, the film follows three womans stories and thoughts about having a labiaplasty. To follow the progress of the film and see clips, check out www.facebook.com/thecentrefoldproject
    Siobhan Fenton

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  17. I think that labiaplasty is a very personal decision, but if it's going to make you happy then by all means, go for it! However, (in my opinion)there is no such thing as the "perfect" vagina, and that's fine! I think people get most of their perceptions of sex (how to do, how it should look, how YOU should look) from pornography and then wonder why their bits don't look like that. I get a lot of people coming to my store (I work as an educator in an adult retail store) that make remarks about the videos. Most of these performers have had labiaplasties, groom extensively and get paid to look a certain way to sell a fantasy.

    http://liquorlubeandlipstick.blogspot.com/ feel free to send me any questions!

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  18. Something which nobody here has touched upon is that there are other valid reasons to have this done other than vanity. It can affect every aspect of a woman's life. For some, it can be very painful to do simple things that others take for granted - even walking. Exercise is another problem as is wearing tight clothes. It can be physically and mentally very distressing. So, before anyone judges (not that anyone in this particular thread is) people should consider that. Yes, some women do it purely to have the 'perfect' one but that's not always the case.

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  19. Labiaplasty, for those who think is the best way to satisfaction, then labiaplasty is good for them. It is not a matter of beauty. It is also the matter of pleasure.

    laser vaginal reconstruction

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  20. Hmm. True, at first glance there seems to be a lot of complexity surrounding the subject of labiaplasty. Nonetheless, it's pretty much just like any other cosmetic procedure. Some might go for such a procedure for aesthetic reasons, while others might require it for medical reasons. In the end, there's no real difference between the two; plastic surgery is just a tool, a means that can help others find an answer. Whether it's labiaplasty or some other procedure, one has to understand the decision that they make before going through with it.

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  21. There are women who are doing this for cosmetic purposes, some runners found it very uncomfortable after running 5 miles. It sores for several days till it heals.

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  22. In my opinion, a labiaplasty procedure is the same like other cosmetic surgeries. If we don't feel great in our own skin and we have how to change this thing, why not to do something? Everyone is free to choose whatever they want and Thank God, I don't need a procedure like this one! :D

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  23. Can you ask your doctor about Labiaplasty, and what are the costs and risks?

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